Husband Gives ‘How-To’ on Helping Breast Cancer Wife

In a Daily News article, the writer John Anderson has watched his mother, sister, and wife battle breast cancer. His mother died, but the other women survived. Now, Anderson gives advice in “Stand By Her: A Breast Cancer Guide for Men,” to help husbands understand and cope with their ailing wives.

This was fitting for Breast Cancer Month and also revealed the other side of the disease – living with the disease, even though you’re not the one who’s sick. An interesting part that Anderson discussed is when his wife Sharon was diagnosed, she didn’t even think about herself that much, she immediately turned to him and apologized for getting sick. She was sorry because Anderson’s mother battled cancer for 10 years before she died in 1998.  Sharon was only worried about how he was feeling at that time.

Another part Anderson says, is men have to know how to do nothing. Men are usually the fixers and like to make things better, but when dealing with cancer, there really isn’t much that can be done. Listening is also an important factor. Anderson stresses that just being there, physically and emotionally, is what a wife must have in her time of need.

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